Bucket List

"It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things." ~Leonardo da Vinci

The other night I got together with some friends at a local restaurant for a couple of hours. Our lives have changed over the years, grown busier and led us off in different directions, but we've kept the tradition of getting together for birthdays (which basically means, three times a year we go out to dinner).

The three of us had a great time catching up, giving each other advice, venting about life's bumps, twists and turns, and near the end of our relaxing get-together, as my friends discussed similar interests in accomplishing the same goal - the kind you think you'd love to meet but know in actuality it probably will never happen - I suggested we make a bucket list.

Enter amusement, contemplation, and an immediate set up of rules.

First, there was no way we could make a bucket list that would span over a long number of years - it would take too long, and wouldn't that make us less likely to reach our goals?

Second, how many "big" things would go on that list? Ah yes. We all agreed. One big thing, and if it was crossed off, it would qualify for bonus points.

And third, wait - we need more time - how about we meet in a month with our lists completed, and go from there?

As our evening drew to a close, one of my friends pointed out that I still hadn't come up with a single item for my list. So of course, being stuck in the whole query process like I am, I jotted down land an agent. (After which, I promptly informed them that if I still didn't have one in five years, I would be needing a straightjacket.)

Later that night, as Lovemuffin and I were lying in bed and I was trying to come up with more items for my list, I found myself feeling frustrated. The minute I'd brought our idea up to him when I came home, adrenaline-wrought items for his own personal list flew from his lips. Sky diving. Climbing Mt. Everest (okay, he didn't really say that one, but that was the kind of things he was coming up with), et cetera. I told him we weren't looking at it like that - our bucket list was more of an inspiration to accomplish a few things that could actually be accomplished in a short amount of time. Sounds simple, right? And yet... aside from the agent goal, I had nada.

So as I lay there staring into the dark I thought, Holy crap. What's wrong with me? Why can't I think of anything?

Then I said, "Honey, do you think the fact that I can't think of anything means I'm content, or do you think it means I'm boring?"

He replied, "Maybe a little of both."

Of course, then I was so busy trying to figure out if I was boring that the bucket list got pushed to the back of my mind.

The point of today's post is this: We all have things we would love to do or try - and yet, I think most of us have never really thought to write them down. So today I'd like to hear a few goals you'd like to accomplish. What would you love to do? Are there places you would like to go? A marathon you'd like to run? A fear of something you would love to confront?

I'd love to hear about them in the comments... maybe your ideas will help me with mine!


Travener said...

1. Publish a book, dang it.
2. See Tierra del Fuego (don't ask me why -- I don't know why).
3. Fall foliage tour in Vermont.
4. Soak in the grotto at the Playboy Mansion with buxom naked ladies, martini in hand (not going to happen).
5. Stay, however briefly, at the Hotel George V in Paris.

Jessica L. Brooks (coffeelvnmom) said...

Ooh, very interesting ones, Travener! :) And I totally feel ya on the first one!;)

Anne Gallagher said...

Well, publish a book, natch.
Learn to speak French.
Learn to ride a motorcycle.
Go to Ireland, England & Scotland.

Wow, I think that's it. I'm either pretty simple, or pretty boring. Content, I won't be until I'm published.

Little Ms J said...

1. Publish a book.
2. And then another one and one after that... repeat.
3. Travel through Europe with someone who doesn't complain about history or how long I want to sit in a chapel for no good reason.
4. Be back to my Pre-Mr. J weight by the time I'm 35.
5. Stick to that pre-Mr. J weight through 40.
6. Organize my closet.

Robyn Bavati said...

1. Publish my 2nd novel, of course.
2. Tell this person who writes inspiring posts that she's not boring.
PS. But only you can know if you're boring - no one spends as much time with you as you do, so you're in the best position to judge. Chances are, if you're not bored, you're not boring. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being content. And they're not mutually exclusive - it's possible to be content and still have goals.

Jessica L. Brooks (coffeelvnmom) said...

Wow. You guys have some GREAT bucket list items! I hope you are all able to reach each and every one of them! (I will be adding getting published to mine, too. So see? Now I have two!)

Robyn, you made me laugh. I'm glad you don't think I'm boring! And no, I don't get bored very often - great point! =)